Relationships are tough. Everyone knows this. This week has been a rollercoaster of emotions for me.
I’m so excited for Bill and me. We are approaching the final steps in purchasing our first home, and our relationship is probably the best it has ever been. Of course the decisions we are making right now can sometimes cause us to argue (as they are HUGE decisions), it is also forcing us to communicate more, and properly.
I’m not really talking about Bill and I’s relationship though. Lately I’ve felt disconnected from a lot of people. I’m terrible at keeping up with friends. I hate talking on the phone, and I’m definitely a home-body. My idea of a great Friday night is dinner out followed by a movie at home (which then usually means I’m asleep by 11:30). I can’t seem to find the right balance between going out and staying home, which surely frustrates any friends I have left.
Which leads me to the point I’m trying to make: Relationships are tough. Friendships, Spouses, Families, Roommates, any kind of relationship. They need nurturing and effort, something I need to take more time for. I’m afraid I’m losing people. I don’t want to wake up one day and realize that the people I see as significant in my life, no longer see me as significant in theirs.
I had a moment this week that left me feeling like very few cared about what all was happening in my life. It’s happened a few other times recently, and I guess it just hit me more this time. There I was standing in our bedroom, tears streaming down my face trying to tell Bill what was going on, while he was trying to console my emotions and make it all better.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m going to do my best to nurture the relationships in my life, and that’s all I can do. I can’t control others, and if I’m no longer important to them, then that’s okay. Things happen, we all change. I’m going to try though. I hope I haven’t caused others to feel the way I felt the other night. I want to look back knowing I did everything I could to make the people I love feel important.
*Sorry for all the seriousness. It has been a tough week though.
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ReplyDeleteI think it's ok time to time isolate from others & the relationships don't work in just one way, if you are important to those people they will understand and give you the break you need...
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I went through this. After high school, I tried to keep in touch with all my friends. Now that I'm graduating college in a couple months, I'll have to do the same with my college friends. Only a few survive - and those few are the ones that matter most to me. Honestly...I don't mind having only 2 or 3 good friends from high school as the ones I really care about enough to keep in touch. Also, I'm a home-body for sure, but I try to balance my days with alone time and time spent with friends. I think it's important for you to make time for your friends, but they have to also give you your own time.
ReplyDeleteBeen there! Life is so busy, unfortunately sometimes relationships get put on the back burner. Found your blog on 20SB... looking forward to reading more :)
ReplyDeletesorry to here about your week. I find myself doing the same thing sometimes. I am a homebody myself and I don't really have alot of friends. I hang out with my husband he is my bestfriend. Sometimes I want friends but if somebody wants to call me to much or go to many places I might shy away. I try not to be this way, but I starting to think its who I am. I don't think love ones should expect you to act out of character, but at the same time we should all show compassion for others when they need it, so maybe they can someday return the favor. Good thing your husband was there to get your through. Relationships with family and friends do take work, especially if your married. Stress can also make things worse. Take breaks when you need to, you may be feeling a little over whelmed. Any how I hope you are fine now and that you find your balance
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